• Roanna Rhodes C.L.C.

The Two Kinds of Fear? And How to Overcome Our Fears for Our Kids

Fear is an invisible emotion that lives inside of us. Nevertheless, it may have visible, tangible consequences in our lives if we allow ourselves to be paralyzed by it.

I have personally experienced the crippling effects of fear. For years, I suffered at the expense of fearful thoughts that at times seemed inescapable and paralyzing. The choices I made while influenced by fear are often the ones I regret the most.

Before I received coaching, I was an extremely fearful mom. I worried and obsessed over my children getting hurt, getting taken, or dying. I worried that I did not know what I was doing as a mom, and I was afraid that I would emotionally scar them. These fears affected my choices when it came to parenting, and often not in a good way.

That's why I wish to empower you to overcome fear through this four-part series.

During this first part of our series, I want to help you understand what fear is, the common fears moms have for their kids, and how to stop having fears about your own families.

What is Fear?

Fear is a strong primary emotion we feel when we detect a threat to our physical, emotional, or mental well-being.

Fear is similar to anxiety, yet they are different in a crucial way.

Fear is a short-term reaction to an immediate threat,

while anxiety is a long-term response to a prolonged, vague threat.

There are two acronyms that will help us have a clearer understanding of fear.

F.E.A.R = “Flee Everything And Run.”

This first acronym is based on the natural fight-or-flight response that fear commonly triggers. This reaction is usually based on real threats that may possibly harm us.

F.E.A.R = “False Evidence Appearing Real”

This acronym reminds us that fear is usually based on an illusion about either a phantom threat that is not as intimidating as we imagine it to be.

In his book Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself, Dr. Joe Dispenza explains that our brain does not always perceive the difference between an imaginary threat and concrete reality unless we consciously direct it to do so.

More often than not, we can be carried away by our imagination about what could happen, what might happen. Our brain’s job is to protect us and keep us alive. One way it does this is by offering us the worst-case scenario.

A refusal to question our fears could potentially affect us as individuals and our family and friends.

We must learn to manage our everyday fears if we want to overcome them.

What are the Common Fears of Moms?

How Can We Overcome These Fears?

There are occasions I have wondered, “Why am I so fearful about my family?” You may have entertained the same question yourself.

Let's talk about some common fears moms have about their kids.

Fear of Physical Harm by Children’s Activities

It's natural for moms to worry their kids may get physically injured or even die if they participate in certain exciting activities.