How One Person Can Change Any Relationship
A few days ago, I heard an interesting story about Helen Georgia, located in northern Georgia. The city's architecture lends itself to that of a small German town. The restaurants serve German delicacies. It is the home of Georgia’s Octoberfest. I thought all this came to be because of German settlers; I was wrong.
At one time, Helen was a dying lumber town facing extinction. But then, in 1969 one man convinced the business owners to reface the town building with a Bavarian-themed architecture. By the fall of 1969, Helen had reinvented itself. Thus, a small German town was born. Helen's popularity grew and it is now Georgia's third most visited city.
The story of Helen's reinvention is an excellent example of how one person can become the catalyst to spark significant change.
Recently I had a client ask me.
“Doesn't my husband need to come and be coached for our marriage to be better?”
The answer is “No”.
I explained to her that
as she received coaching and learned new skills, her thinking would change; When just one person's thinking changes, feelings begin to shift and new behavior forms—creating a shift in the relationship as a whole.
Here are a few examples:
When we learn to ask more questions and not jump to conclusions, we become better problem solvers and create deeper connections.
When we take responsibility for our happiness, we release others from that burden, and relationships become more authentic.
When we do things for others out of love and not obligation, resentment and bitterness begin to dissolve and relationships become fun.
This is not only true in marriages but in any relationship.
One person's influence can change the outcome.
This conversation with my client made me think of all the times one person's influence had a dynamic change in the world we live in.
Steve Jobs changed phones.
Henry Ford changed transportation and manufacturing.
Edwin Land changed photography when he invented the Polaroid camera.
These are examples of how just one person's willingness to change affected millions of other people.
I bet you can also think of at least one person who has influenced or changed your life.
Why is it so difficult to believe that one person can change a relationship between two people?
The willingness of one person to change can change the dynamic of a marriage and a family.
Just like the man that reinvented Helen, saving it from financial ruin,
you, too, can reinvent your marriage, your family, and even yourself.
Don’t underestimate the power or influence you have; learn to use it to create the life you want.
I invite you to have a free session with me.