Glenn and I have developed many friendships over the years. We have moved states twice. We moved from California to Texas and then again to Georgia. With each move, new friendships were made. We have friends who have supported us through many trials and many who have celebrated our wins with us. We all long for friendships where we can be honest and transparent. Relationships where we are not judged but loved, accepted, and understood.
The Lord wants us to experience friendships that help us grow. If you have a friend who loves you for who you are and where you are in your life without judging, hold on to them and guard them as the treasure they genuinely are.
If you struggle to make friends, please know that you are not alone. Pray that God will bring you a friend that stays closer than a sister.
24 And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds,25 not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching.
Here are three tips for being a good friend
If you want a friend, be a friend.
Be the one to introduce yourself first. My dad once had a neighbor who made a list of everyone's names, phone numbers, and e-mail addresses. She had just moved into the community and wanted to connect. Out of that one gesture, several long-lasting friendships were formed.
Be part of a group or offer to lead one.
Several times when my children were small, I led a small group of moms in a book club. We would meet at the park in the summer and let the kids play while we visited and supported each other through the ups and downs of motherhood.
“Eighty percent of success is showing up; a big part of friendship is showing up." Whenever you have the chance to see other people face-to-face, take it. Make an effort to stop by and say hi, put effort into going to parties when invited, or make a phone call to see if people are free for coffee or dinner.
With much love,